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Erin Papworth
2 months ago

5 Ways Travel Can Strengthen the Relationship for a Couple

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Couples that travel together, stay together. If some famous person hasn’t said it already, let me be the first to make that grand statement. 

I have spent the majority of my adult life tra...

Couples that travel together, stay together. If some famous person hasn’t said it already, let me be the first to make that grand statement. 

I have spent the majority of my adult life traveling, and I have had the pleasure of not only traveling as a couple and seeing the joy that it brought to our relationship, but also knowing many couples that use travel as a form of couples bonding (and maybe some therapy).

Here are the top reasons travel can strengthen your relationship as a couple: 

1. You shake up the routine.

Travel is a moment to take yourselves out of your daily routine. This is also very helpful for couples who can connect in a new setting, with new energy. When you are relaxed and the stresses of real life seem far away, it opens space to discuss issues with a new perspective and take your time to explore topics that shouldn’t be rushed.

2. Travel conversations open new lines of communication.

Now, not everyone travels the same, so getting on the same page about the kind of travel that makes you both happy is a good first step. Is he a weekend-getaway type traveler? Are you an international explorer? It’s always ideal to work through your preferences, not only for your relationship, but for your wallet. This is a great way to understand your partner more and to express your needs and desires. Since travel is usually low stacks (you’re not buying a house or having a baby!), it can actually be fun to find your travel cadence as a couple!

3. You get to learn together and see a different side of your partner. 

I never would have known my partner had an adventurous palette, and had even eaten snake, if we hadn’t been in a random village in West Africa. At the time he was starving and was offered some fried crickets by our ever-helpful driver. As there was little else to consume in the area, he happily gulped them down. When I protested in disgust, he mischievously laughed and said: “this is nothing compared to the snake I once had!” And so, I learned more about him then, at the time, I wanted to know and decided not to kiss him for at least a day to ensure no random cricket legs got near my mouth.

4. It gives you a chance to talk about money.

Travel is a great and more neutral way to understand how each person in the couple manages money. The amount you’ll spend (or at least the way you want to spend your money on a trip) gives you an opportunity to express your budget comfort zones. Maybe s/he loves food and is willing to splurge, while you’d prefer to stay in a nicer hotel and eat street food. Working those styles out beforehand helps you plan out how much you want to spend and what you want to do before you go. It’s a great way to open a safe dialogue about spending habits in general too. P.S. Nav.it has a great budget tracking app that can help you both keep track of your goals! 

5. You make lasting memories.

When life gets back into a routine. When you have children in school and are beholden to summer holidays like everyone else. When your partner starts a business and she only has time to travel for work. At those points in your life, you will be so happy you have travel memories as a couple. It also gives you something to look back on and forward to. Once you establish travel as a priority within your relationship, you know you will do it again. Maybe not at the frequency of the early years, but you will do it again. If it’s the yearly excursion, or the monthly weekend getaway, the experiences you have exploring the world together will define your relationship and your memories throughout time.


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Kari Lorz
4 months ago

How to Handle Finances in a Relationship

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Money can be such a dirty word.

Get this: Money is the second leading cause of divorce in the US (behind infidelity). Many sites have articles, surveys, and polls that list out startling stats that are enough to make you cry (and steer clear of commitment like it’s your full-time job). Most cite high amounts of debt and lack of communication (th...
Money can be such a dirty word.

Get this: Money is the second leading cause of divorce in the US (behind infidelity). Many sites have articles, surveys, and polls that list out startling stats that are enough to make you cry (and steer clear of commitment like it’s your full-time job). Most cite high amounts of debt and lack of communication (this doesn’t surprise us!) about money as being the drivers behind the sinking ship. 

The American Psychology Association says 40-50 percent of marriages end in divorce (and there is some wiggle room due to permanent separation while remaining married). 

Now you may not be married right now, but your future may include formal vows (let’s leave out the “obey” part, please and thank you). So let’s put on our practice pants and get to work now on being a team player when it comes to money!

Here are four tips for how to handle finances in a relationship when it comes to both earning and spending money.

Ask for help.

Now for some of you, this may not be so simple, but no one ever got anywhere when they went 100 percent solo (except maybe a good hike). Everyone needs someone to bounce ideas off of, a different perspective, or just a “good game” butt slap. Hey, you appreciate someone’s help when they see something that you don’t, right? (Hint: your fly is down.)

So when you’re stumped on your budget (make one in five easy steps) or need to think of a plan to raise extra funds to fix your car’s grinding noises, ask your partner for help. Ask and be prepared to listen. Then say thank you.

Think about it, when someone asks you for sincere help, you feel pretty good about yourself and your relationship. This simple tactic can be used for so many things, and definitely something you should become comfortable with.

Share your goals.

Some days it feels like just putting on pants and leaving your apartment is a good goal. But with you partner, share your goals of what you want your future to look like. 
You want to own your own home? Share it! Do you want to own a 1970 Ford Mustang with a Boss 302? Hey, maybe your significant other has an uncle that works at a car shop that works explicitly on old ‘70s muscle cars. BUT you wouldn’t know that unless you share, right?

Now, your goals may not have anything to do with saving money, but I’m pretty sure you will need money to reach some of them. Maybe you find out that you both want to go on a vacation to Bora Bora? Say hello to a joint travel vacation savings account. I highly recommend a high interest online savings account with 1.9% APY. That’s 20x higher than the national average.

Sharing your goals still means that you need to be smart with your money. So go ahead print out that picture of that bungalow over the water, bust out your crayons and make a money thermometer (you know, like the fundraiser type thing from grade school). You can also go the digital route if you’re not into arts and crafts. 

 Post your goal on your fridge and get to saving.

Talk about it.

So from the other tips you may have noticed a trend… TALKING about money. If you didn’t get that hint, go back and reread it. I’ll wait. You back? Cool. Let’s continue.

When you don’t talk about something in plain sight, then it gets somewhat awkward. Only when you start communicating and doing it often do things get easier.

Traditionally (aka our parent’s generation), talking about money wasn’t a polite topic of conversation. Maybe you grew up in a household where money was a sore spot?

We are not ostriches. We can’t stick our head in the ground and ignore money issues… because they don’t ever go away without action. If you’re having anxiety about it, and that’s completely normal, try some of these ways to alleviate it before diving into conversation.

Yes, it may be weird in the beginning, but it will get easier, just as everything does with practice.

Do a money challenge.

These can be a lot of fun if done correctly. It is fun to have a goal, potentially a goal that maybe you think you can’t achieve. But then it gets turned into a game…and guess who shows up with a full tummy of Wheaties? YOU!

Here are a few:
  1.  Do a No Spend Month
  2.  Cash only envelope challenge
  3.  Eat just what is in your pantry
  4.  Save all the $5 bills that you get
  5.  Cut 50 percent of your subscriptions (you won’t notice, trust me)
  6.  Try the 52 Week Savings Challenge

Keep it lighthearted. No one likes a sore loser (or a lousy winner). In fact, you don’t even need to have a winner, set it up as a team challenge! You are just starting to learn how to handle finances in a relationship (it’s a marathon, not a sprint).

Whatever you decide to do to help you and your honey get better at this thing called money management, know that nothing is set in stone. If one thing doesn’t work after some decent effort and time, then try something different. Just keep trying. 

If you need 1:1 help for your finances, apply to come work with Whitney Hansen for financial coaching


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