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Amy Matthews
5 months ago

When Your Head and Your Heart Play Tug-O-War: Mind vs. Heart Decision

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We all have mixed feelings at times. I certainly do (seriously – who doesn’t!). You know, when it’s hard to choose or decide because your head is telling you one thing and your heart says another.

What the mind vs. heart decision looks like

Here are a few ways the mind vs. heart decision plays out:

“I’d love to pursue my ...
We all have mixed feelings at times. I certainly do (seriously – who doesn’t!). You know, when it’s hard to choose or decide because your head is telling you one thing and your heart says another.

What the mind vs. heart decision looks like

Here are a few ways the mind vs. heart decision plays out:

“I’d love to pursue my passion but I CAN’T.  I need the security my job gives me, even though it sucks me dry.”

“I’m super attracted to this person and we have so much fun together. BUT I have a different picture, they aren’t ‘who I thought I’d be with’.

“I don’t want to go to the party – it will be boring. Yet I’m OBLIGATED because I said I would go. I need to do the ‘right’ thing, that’s who I am.”

Our analytical mind guides us in many ways but often its advice is geared to the “shoulds” in life – how it “should” look, how you “should” be, what you “should” do or what things “should” look like. ​​​​​​​Shoulds drain our energy and are joy-killers. They keep us stuck, in question mode, or feeling ambivalent. 

Worst of all, they keep us from taking action on what we want most.

Nav.ing the mind vs. heart decision

​​​​​​To get your head and heart aligned, ask yourself these questions. 
  1. What thoughts, beliefs and feelings are getting in the way of doing what I really want?
  2. What does my heart say?
  3. Will I regret NOT doing this?
  4. What’s the worst thing that can happen if I go for it?
Write down your answers. Confusion will naturally diffuse once you start writing.

Trust that clarity will come. A NO can turn into a YES at any time.


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